Wednesdays with the Arts: Sex and Aging

Today we have guest author Adriana Kraft with us. This husband and wife writing team is talking about writing, erotic romance and Baby Boomers. Please check it out and feel free to leave comments for the duo. Comments are moderated, but I will be online today to be sure they are approved as quickly as possible. Without further delay, please welcome Adriana Kraft to Wednesdays with the Arts.

Baby Boomers in Erotic Romance? Oh, Yeah!

Confession time: My husband and I, who co-author Erotic Romance for Two, Three, or More as Adriana Kraft, were born in that baby boomer era. You know – the generation that brought us sex, drugs, and rock&roll. Well, not the drugs part, speaking for ourselves.

Funny thing about all that, though – the youngest of the baby boomers will turn fifty in 2014. Do you think they’re going to give up sex, just because five decades have passed? For most of them, the answer is a resounding NO, and that’s a good thing.

It turns out that staying sexually active has an impressive list of health benefits – true at any age, but even more important as the years go by. A recent article in the online Philadelphia Enquirer quotes Widener University Professor Betsy Crane: “Sex is good for your health,” she says. “It lowers blood pressure, elevates mood, boosts immunity, burns calories, and helps you sleep better.” She also cites studies showing that men who have sex more often have a lower incidence of heart attacks.

Besides which, of course, it’s a lot of fun. Naturally we have to learn to do some things differently than we may have done in our twenties, and there are lots of resources out there to help. The Betsy Crane article just posted lists several of them. Author and speaker Joan Price, who calls herself an “advocate for ageless sexuality,” has many more tips and helpful examples in her recent book, Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex, available at Amazon.com.

All of which is a huge part of why, in crafting our erotic romance stories, my husband and I often feature characters in their forties, fifties, and even (gasp!) sixties. We just attended the Hot Mojave Knights Romance Reader Event in Las Vegas, where we were part of a panel on erotica and erotic romance. As we started talking about who we feature in our spicy stories, he glanced around the room, smiled, and said “we like to spread hope,” and the room broke up.

More than that – we like to be part of keeping that sexy spark alive, and we like to deliver accurate and hopefully helpful information about sex and aging while we’re doing so. In A Woman for Zachary, for example, our fifty-something heroine rushes madly across town to rescue of our hero of the same age when he suddenly can’t get it up while they’re having phone sex. It happens, sometimes even with those miracle drugs, and we like to normalize it, reduce shame, and contribute to happy solutions.

We’ve crafted an entire series about an empty-nest baby boomer couple who turn to the swing lifestyle together after the wife figures out she might be bisexual. Lest you think this notion is out to lunch, there’s research suggesting that women, especially, become more sexually fluid as they age. We’re not advocating swinging as a solution for just anybody, but we do think that offering our readers sexy ménage stories featuring a wide age range of characters can deliver fantasies to spice up anyone’s bedroom activity. The series, Swinging Games, is published by Extasy Books and available at all on-line ebook retailers.

One of my favorite characters we’ve written is Claire Johnson, in Ripening Passion. I’ve often wished to be as bold and straightforward as she is, and it was a great joy to write a happy ending that seemed so perfectly suited to her.

Ripening Passions Book CoverClaire Johnson’s dedication to sex—the cornerstone of her career—led her to found the Center for Sexuality and Sex Practices. Now in her fifties, she knows the Center must keep pace with the rapidly growing Baby Boomer market, so she agrees to go back on camera for a series on sex and aging. But work with her nemesis?

Former English Professor Max Wilson has championed the cause of the Center ever since his deceased wife sought the Center’s help to rekindle the nearly extinguished sexual flames of their relationship. He loves working on camera and welcomes the challenge to perform with the svelte but feisty temptress.

Sparks fly immediately on and off camera. Can either Claire or Max transform those sparks into a fire of sexual desire for their viewers? And if they succeed, what will happen when the movie’s over?

EXCERPT

Max glanced up at Claire. “Do you always eat like a bird?”

Claire didn’t crack a smile. She used her fork to separate another hunk of tuna salad. Deliberately, she snagged a small bite and lifted it to her mouth, then chewed it thoroughly. She glanced around the early dinner crowd. How many patrons were meeting for business, and how many were meeting with other thoughts on their minds? She smiled at two women holding hands at a nearby table while sharing a pudding. Finally she looked back at Max.

“If you approve of this body as much as you claim, then you’d better appreciate how I eat. I’m not telling you what to eat.”

“I’m sorry,” he quickly said. “I wasn’t putting you down. It’s just that I’ve never known anyone so disciplined about eating.”

“I enjoy my food. I just avoid sugars and saturated fats as much as possible.”

“You rarely eat dessert.”

“Perhaps I prefer a different sort of dessert,” she said, sliding her bare foot up the inside of his leg.

“Damn.” Max coughed, then glanced quickly around the small Italian restaurant.

Claire smiled. It wasn’t exactly like anyone was paying attention, and with the long white table cloths nearly touching the floor, no one could see what she was doing. What would Max do if she slipped under the table to give him some head? She chuckled. He might not survive, and she didn’t need that on her conscience.

“What’s so funny?” Max asked, suspiciously.

“Just pondering dessert. I guess I can wait until later. We haven’t practiced for more than forty-eight hours. I assume you’re ready.”

“I’ve been ready since the plane landed. So where are we going to practice?”

“I noticed you didn’t say your place or mine.” She reached behind her and re-tied her ponytail. “I’ve given that a lot of thought. The Center is too damn sterile. Sex in front of a camera is one thing. Spontaneous sex there is another, but planned practice…” she scrunched her mouth, “feels rather sterile, too. I don’t want to go to a hotel. I’ve had enough hotels for a while.”

Claire looked at Max’s placid features. He wasn’t about to bail her out on this one.

“Oh, okay. You can come over to my place.”

His face immediately lit up in a broad smile.

“But I don’t want you to get the wrong idea. You are not sleeping over.”

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ABOUT ADRIANA KRAFT

Adriana Kraft PhotoAdriana Kraft is the pen name for a husband/wife team writing Erotic Romance for Two, Three or More. The award-winning pair has published over thirty erotic romance novels and novellas to outstanding reviews. Long and Short Reviews: “scorching hot…refreshing…something to read when you want straight up hotness.” Romance Junkies: “filled with warmth, blazing hot sex, well-developed characters…not for the faint of heart.”  Romantic pairings include straight m/f, lesbian, bisexual, ménage and polyamory, in both contemporary and paranormal settings.

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14 comments

  1. I like middle age, but it’s nice to see older characters too. They seem to have more of their life in order and can focus on the romance.

    • A lovely thought! Hubs and I keep thinking maybe things will settle down one day…with four grown boys and their families, something’s always happening! But it’s good – and you’re right, a lot of major decisions and choices are settled, so let’s hear it for romance (and hot sex) at any age!

  2. Some people ythink sex ends at a certain age. I have found I enjoy it more now than I did before. Glad to see romance recognize all of us.

    • I totally agree! I don’t know who started the rumor – Miley Cyrus did her bit to keep it going, though, in her interview with Matt Lauer on the Today Show a couple weeks ago 🙂 But I’m definitely having more fun now than evernow than ever.

  3. I would say gross, but I guess I might be there one day. This just makes me think about my parents still having sex. I kind of hope they’re not lol.

    • Hi Stephanie,
      Hi Stephanie,

      Actually, you’re exactly who we want to reach out to. Hopefully you WILL be there someday, and we hope you never give up on having great sex! Our older characters probably aren’t who you want to be reading now, but when they time comes, there’ll be lots of opportunity.

  4. As for what I would like to see…the question from above. Well, I would like to see more connections. Like maybe a husband and wife empty nest type thing where they learn to reconnect with each other now that the children have all gone away.

    • I like that – we haven’t written exactly that, but will put it in the hopper. Colors of the Night has that theme, but the married couple is in their mid thirties, not quite boomer age 🙂

  5. I want to see more retired couples traveling the world and having great sex :). Maybe because I wish I could travel right now and do just the same.

  6. MMmm, love this – and we will definitely write it! In a way that’s what we’re doing now (without sharing personal details lol) – we travel, write, and live full time in our motorhome. Not the entire world, but all over the southwest, for now – and who knows, in the future!

  7. Hi Natalie, yes, we do have a couple of those – a short story in The Cougar Book anthology, edited by Jolie Du Pre, and a WIP we’re polishing now, with a mid-life widowed heroine and a hero fifteen years her junior. They’re sure running into some difficult issues!

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